Sunday, October 5, 2008

Landlord! I have a Rant due!

I was Highly Patriotic this independence day weekend...OMG!!...talk about Marking register at almost every event..
To be quite honest, i usually do not like going for Maryland shindigs...Unless...Unless...its that kind of night where ALL your friends want to go...everyone you know is going...There is nothing else to do...so its like....err well!...

Anyhoo but this time i was quite excited to attend the festivities!...I have been dyiiiiiing to hear Nigerian Music in the club...i am sorry...there is nothing as sweet as dancing to " Kini big deal or a Dbanj anthem"...in a spacious area with the music blasting off the walls!!...so i was like woohoo yeaaa!...I had PLANNED to attend just the friday event at Love Niteclub....but somehow i attended like 3 events...whadyaknow!!...Back to Back like a hardcore paRTy rocker too!...very ridiculous....on saturday i was DONE!...but My Older sis who doesnt go to Nigerian events AT ALL...wanted to go for an independence thingy to prove she wasn't a total sellout lol...so i HAD to go along just to support her entry into uncharted territories (gosh i am such a sweet younger sister)...but anyhoo kept on running into the same people...in different outfits!
Had fun on thursday and friday....infact had TOO much fun on friday thanks to the devil's juice! ..I swear My friend called me the next day and i was like, "Oh i am so sad i didnt see you at the party, where were you!!!!!!" and he goes, "dude, we hung out together for like 30 mins, you were even wearing my sunglasses all night!"...i was like....HUHHHHH?????!!!....So i sure did steer clear from alcohol at yesterday's event....I didn't need a repeat performance..No Ma'm!

But Anyhoo i have A RANT based on this weekend.... First of all, GIRLS are very interesting beings...i really feel like women need to just come together and EXHALE.... When a group of women who dont know each other well, chill in the same place at the same time, the air just thickens with suspicion and paranoia!...WHY CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!lol....I personally think i am Nice.......no seriously i really do lol....I have NO problems with anyone...But i am just reserved, if i dont know you i don't go out of my way to jump in front of you and say Hello!!....I just chill, If our eyes connect, ill say Hello...I repeat, i have no problems with anyone...i don't HATE on anyone... I am actually just a chill female!!..No hostility here!....but dude...the amount of hostile eyes i connected with this weekend was quite shocking lol...I mean I think people just ASSUME things about My friends and I because we seem too clique /ish..or so i have heard anyway......You hear stuff like, Oh these girls think they are this and that...blah blah blazi!...so its like automatically people just assume that because we are always together and either being really loud lol or being very quiet, we either are unfriendly or think we iz the shizzz..oh dont get me wrong, i do feel i am the shizz..hahaha.....Assumptions are never facts dudes!...
ANyhow the reason i am going semi personal on here is because of i felt this weekend was interesting....i had quite a number of awkward female crazy moments...but i shall narrow it down to two incidents...First of, there was this female who was really cold to my friend who also happens to be HER friend...and i am talking point blank rude to her .... because she was hanging with my sis and I at a party on friday night!!....now her reason is she thinks i don't like her....because...er...she just thinks so??...or i don't say hi??..or something?!...???...I mean i really dont know this girl at all..To even assume I have formed a decision about whether or not i like her is ludicrous...as far as i know she is an attractive cool girl!!...so why assume i dont like you??....its silly!!....all i am trying to say is...I don't talk about people...because...and to be quite honest....i really dont CARE!!!...i dont go out of my way to be mean to anyone...i just do me...if i walk past you, its because I didn't see you....so stop assuming i purposely expend my energy on stupid girly crap...who cares...hiss. lol...Don't think we are rival groups, don't think we are competing, don't think because you see me giggle to a friend when you enter a room that i am laughing at you, don't think i think i am better than you...ridiculous shit...Its just so tiring having to deal with females and their exhausting imaginations....i get along with confident girls who are above all that crap!....No seriously...
AND secondly..My second wtf moment is with this other group of girls i see about town, I do not know these ladies by names, we have never been introduced...i just have seen them around and thats really about that.. but yet, mutual friends keep telling me shit that these girls talk about my friends and I...and although i usually dont pay attention to crap like that, its quite interesting that somehow somewhere some girls are locked up in an invisible battle with ...quite honestly...themselves...lol.....The hostility permeating the airwaves when we are all in touching distance is hilarious...even outside people who have never met girl group in question and just randomly just stumble onto this imaginary battle zone are like...whats really good?!!...And We just keep giving ourselves quizzical expressions like Are they for real??...Na fight?...lol...But its all good though..everyone is on their own P....let them do them...I just hope to never be jumped by a group of chics because they THINK i am hating on them lol....

AS a closing statement, I really just think females need to start looking at each other as Potential friends, instead of potential rivals...There are girls i meet that i just click with in an hour because they are just open and confident and happy and then there are these other girls who are just so frigging wierd and its just impossible to get past their crazy barriers and preconcieved notions about you....i find myself trying to be extremely down to earth and friendly just to prove to people i am not what you think!!...I am not MRS friend...and i am not going to go out of my way to BEFRIEND anyone...unless you are frigging Beyonce...lol...but just leave your insecurities at the door and realize that you cant make judgements about people you dont know!

This is my rant of the day lol! I have to get bACK TO 177 slides of infectious diseases....i am not kidding...it is a 177 slides...Thanks for listening yall!!....And i hope everyone is staying fabulous!!

XXX

14 comments:

Dorah said...

Wow! Crazy weekend. There are some crazy ass Naija girls out there. I hope you still had fun... You guys are best. Pretty, friendly, and cool. Plus, y'all have great stezz (aka style).

HOLLER!!!!!!!!!!

happygirl said...

that level of imaginary hostility women have against women exist and transends to all race not just naija girls...thing is that naija girls take their ish to a whole new level...its crazy

everybody is guilty of it though..dont lie you have felt that way before...let me be the first to admit it.....i just get over it fast..life's too short. beside since i no fit fight..and ive overgrown it,,i quickly learned to ignore all that bull and dog poo poo :)

You sure had a great weekend ooo..una dey enjoy plenty plenty....ooo...welcome to the world of naija clubs...

btw i love your blogs..its like naija girl meets karlas closet and sea of shoes...without the numerous pic...with that said u should post more pics....you guys are too cool for no pics

Fona said...

Hahahahahaa...Nice one
Couldnt resist commenting

"But i am just reserved, if i dont know you i don't go out of my way to jump in front of you and say Hello!!....I just chill, If our eyes connect, ill say Hello."

If you asked me...the sentence should have ended with "I still wont say hello cuz I could care less"

Anonymous said...

Hi I love your blog and just had to comment... Its so true especially here in the mother land!! When a sister goes up the ladder everyone is just there waiting to tear her apart and bring her down. Guess who is first in line... her fellow sister!!!

Sugarr♥ said...

Lol! Omg. So true. So so true. I had similar experiences this weekend; my first time at a Nigerian gig after like a year or so! But in the midst of it all, I still managed to make friends with some really cool girls.
I don't gerrit! Why are we our own worst enemies????

Dorah said...

dude. naija girls stay trying to bring each other down... it's so sad and NOT cute.

Kemberly said...

My Dear...they just hatin' on you b'cos they wanna be YOU!!! That's all there is to it jare! Hate is the GREATEST form of FLATTERY!!!

ceecy29 said...

I feel you on this one jare!!! I am just tired of everybody and their mama's status on facebook being about one hater or the other, ah ahn!!! Me, I just watch and laugh, there's too many infectious diseases to be cured, awful smiles to be corrected and clothes to be sewn..you get my drift!!!

Stay fly ladies (pssh! like y'all need to be told hehe!)

Anonymous said...

True talk sha but thanks for clarifying 'cos I do see y'all out and about and I've always assumed that you lot are snobbish. Don't ask why sha..lol

Anonymous said...

177 slides...chei! pele o!
sorry...that really stood out to me.

o...re: ur rantings, do u mehn... singing:"it's alright love, i let a hater hate!" lol

paris said...

very well said and i could hv sworn it was me writing!

there is a very thin line btwn confidence and stoogeness/snubbishness or wateva it is called. unfortunately most girls especially Naija girls pick d latter. im so sick of d buffoonery!! matter of fact, sick 2 d point of lettn that mentality of who u think of i am start 2 manifest on its own. its who u think i am, so ur pscyh is basically built around that, u r just lookin 4 things 2 back it up.
its all in d head!

after much much, Who bloody cares?? ive cut dwn on naija events here in d states cos of that. d HATERADE SIPPING is getting contagious!

Zena said...

You should be flattered, even though I'm sure you guys don't need people to tell you how hot you are, they want to be you guys can't you see?

na bad bele, just wave and say hi haterr

Cranberry said...

Hey guyss!!!! Thanks for ALL your comments! I am glad to see that I AM NOT ALONE lol...Sheesh i just snuck in here to respond because i have been TRYING to make up for going out so much last weekend..and the weekend before that..and the weekend before that!!...GAWD let my Natural smarts Help me!!!..i have midterms next week and i am seriously about to Pass out!!...who sent me to Party last week..BAD BAD decision lol!!...
@ ANon that thought we were snobby...lol..now why would you think that??!!! lol...

I wish everyone a great night...and a wonderful day tommorow...I know i wont be having one :(

AnyaPosh said...

wow...that was loooonnngg! but i read it all due to lack of a better thing to do at this moment.

Well...you make very good observations, I get what you mean when you say the air becomes thick with suspicion & paranoia. It doesn't have to be that way. Personally, I think its quite sad that as females we don't automatically become friends when we meet each other but resort to seeing ourselves as enemies (see: frenemies) or rivals. I won't deny, back in the day I've been called snobbish, snotty, and all sorts because I didn't go outta my way to befriend people but that has since changed.

I hope you find a warm fuzzy place in all that drama in your nightlife.


*ahem*...this was an equally long response. lol